In Love Is Everything!
be capable of real love means becoming mature, with realistic expectations of
the other person. It means accepting responsibility for our own happiness or
unhappiness, and neither expecting the other person to make us happy nor
blaming that person for our bad moods and frustrations.
John A. Sanford
Maturity, in general, is many things. Maturity in a love relationship is
everything! First it is the ability to base a decision about a love
relationship on the big picture - the long haul. In general, it means being
able to pass up the fun for the moment and select the course of action which
will pay off later.
a love relationship, it means being able to enjoy the instant gratification
that comes with the romance of the moment while knowing the best is yet to be
and being patient while you watch your love grow.
is knowing that by working together, the state of unconditional love will
presence itself in the relationship and will mature with time. It is knowing
that you grow into a love relationship. It doesn't happen all at once. Mature
love partners seek new ways to help each other grow.
of the characteristics of infancy is the "I want it now" approach. Grown-up
people can wait. And often they don't. Often they allow themselves to slip back
into infancy so they can justify rushing into things.
is the ability to stick with a project or a situation until it is finished. It
means doing whatever it takes to make the relationship be one you are proud to
adult who is constantly changing jobs, relationships, and friends, is in a
word. . . immature.
They cannot stick it out because they have not grown up. Everything seems to
turn sour after a while.