In Love Is Everything!
a love relationship to mature, both partners must experience a deep feeling, a
tacit belief, that there is something quite special about them which would
never have happened had each not contributed to its creation.
Larry A. Bugen
Mature love partners have learned not to expect perfection in each other. They
know that acceptance has its own reward.Each lover's differences test the
other's capacity for acceptance, forgiveness and understanding.
never dance around issues. When necessary, they discuss their imperfections,
lovingly, with care not to pass judgment with harmful words. Acceptance and
tolerance hold hands in the presence of unconditional love.
Mature lovers -- lovers who love unconditionally -- develop a knack for
side-stepping resentment and focusing on the good they see in one another.They
have evolved to a higher level of understanding, one that transcends taking
notice of the imperfections of the other.
is the capacity to face unpleasantness, frustration, discomfort and defeat
without complaint or collapse.
love partners know they can't have everything their own way. They are able to
defer to circumstances, to other people - and to time, when necessary.
love partners permit each other the freedom to pursue their individual
interests and friends without restriction. This is when trust presents itself.
love allows this level of separateness to bring lovers closer together. In this
scenario separateness is perceived as a bond, not a wedge. It encourages love
partners to celebrate their own uniqueness.